Written Jenna Wortham for Matter, with illustrations by Wesley Allsbrook, Trenton Duerksen, Lisa Hanawalt, Melody Newcomb, Pat Perry, Jonny Russo, Sam Vanallemeersch, and Roxie Vizcarr

“I sent my very first sext at the age of 15. Maybe I was 13. I was up late, talking to strangers in an AOL chatroom, when someone asked me to upload my photo. I can remember hesitating for a few moments, then obliging, my heart galloping along. I arranged myself on the thick carpet in my bedroom, took a photo with my Web cam, and sent it. Why? Why not? I was clothed, but it was definitely meant to be provocative, flirtatious. I couldn’t fathom any repercussions to my behavior, not at that moment, not at that age. And nothing bad happened, not really. People made comments of the variety you’d expect, some nice, some not so nice, and then the conversation trotted along.

Last weekend, my baby niece — who is now 17 — told me that at her high school, trading sexy photos is as common as trading Instagram handles. She doesn’t participate in the exchanges, she says, because these days, everything is forever. She lives in a different era. My photo mostly went away, but hers wouldn’t evaporate so easily.

I’ve long been interested in how technology mediates desire and the way that our phones, an extension of ourselves, foster intimate interactions that feel so personal and deep, despite being relayed through a machine. Oceans of emotion can be transmitted through a text message, an emoji sequence, and a winking semicolon, but humans are hardwired to respond to visuals.

This project came to life after the celebrity hacks of 2014 and the condescending aftermath of advice toward women that lectured them — us — about taking photos of our bodies, nude or even scantily clad in bikinis or in a dressing room. We were told that we only had ourselves to blame for expressing sexuality through our devices, and that we couldn’t expect the companies that sell us these machines and services to protect us if we behaved in a way deemed inappropriate. People weren’t (yet) telling these companies that they needed to work on their security protocols, so that the people using their devices and services would feel safe, or even that our safety was important. It enraged me. It still does.

I think that everybody sexts. Not everyone sends nude photos, of course, for a variety of reasons. But many people I’ve talked to define a sext as anything sent with sexual intent, be it a suggestive Gchat exchange, a racy photo, a suggestive Snapchat, or even those aqua-blue droplets of sweat emoji.”

Read more about (and see many steamy examples of) #realworldsexting here!  We love this article because everyone sexts, and it’s great to be able to see such a beautiful comparison of all the different ways it can play out.

Written by Michael de Costillo for Upstart Business Journal.  Originally published November 14th, 2014.

“Cindy Gallop has figured out a way to make people to pay for porn again. She’s got 30 years marketing experience, she’s a SXSW and TED Talk veteran, and her next-generation porn company has been generating revenue since the day it launched.

And yet, thanks to what she describes as built-in prejudices against investing in the adult industry, she just can’t find any venture capitalist willing to get behind her company, New York-based MakeLoveNotPorn.

Not that investors don’t want a piece of the adult industry pie, she said, but that they fear what other people will think. Which is where bitcoin, the pseudonymous, crypto-currency with a growing economy of investors and users, enters the equation.

“Silicon Valley welcomes innovation in every other area of our lives except this one, and this is the one that needs it most,” Gallop told me in a recent interview. “Everything that is happening in the bitcoin space is directly analogous to what has the potential to happen in the sex-tech space.””

Read more about Cindy’s thoughts on bitcoin, crowdfunding, and “Vice vs. Virtue Investing,” here.

Written by Ben Suroeste for YNOT.  Originally published November 14th, 2014.

“These days, I’m not sure a single day goes by without some aspect of the porn industry receiving at least a little mainstream media ink. Sometimes a porn star makes headlines due to her dalliance with a professional sports star. Other times, the headlines emerge from the decidedly “bad news” side of the industry’s ledger, like an HIV-driven moratorium on content production.

This week in the media, the porn-industry-related theme appears to be “Ladies Night” in the form of a lengthy group Q&A with four female porn directors hitting HuffPo (by way of Ravishly.com) and a profile of “entreporneur” Cindy Gallop running on BizJournals.com.

As always with mainstream treatments of porn subjects, there are aspects of the coverage that left me scratching my head, including the headline on the Gallop profile: “Porn baroness finds Silicon Valley’s stance toward sex tech rather curious.”

For starters, a “baroness” by definition is a woman who is, or was at one time, married to a baron, and whoever the Baron of Porn might be, I’m pretty sure he’s not married to Cindy Gallop. (Unless…. Larry, Cindy: Is there something you’ve been meaning to tell us?)

Such minor gripes aside, however, these two articles are great press, not just for the impressive set of trailblazers featured therein, but for the adult industry as a whole. Among other things, nothing more effectively rebuts the notion of the adult industry being a business sector devoid of intelligent, independent and self-directed women than hearing from women currently working in the industry who clearly embody those traits…”

To read more about the incredible women that are working to change the game in the porn industry, and in society in general, check out the rest of the piece here.

Written by Amanda B. Johnson for Coin Telegraph. Originally published November 16th, 2014.

“Cindy Gallop is the founder of MakeLoveNotPorn, a site dedicated to establishing the difference between porn and “real world” sex, while further enabling people to share and profit from their own lovemaking videos.

It’s been the “profit” part that has her considering Bitcoin. Gallop finds that necessities like VC funding, bank accounts and video streaming platforms usually read “no adult content” in the small print.

As many business owners do, Gallop is cautiously and slowly approaching the Bitcoin space. We thought we’d reach out to her and give her a warm crypto welcome.

CT: You have faced many systemic challenges that Bitcoin has faced on the journey to acceptance – PayPal, Chase, Amazon, Android and Apple banned you. How have you handled this and where have you found solutions?

CG: I haven’t. As part of my battle to open up people’s minds, I use analogies all of the time. The three huge areas of disruption today are sex, cannabis, and Bitcoin. Investors are rushing into Bitcoin and cannabis long before they are doing so for sex.

We still don’t have a bank account and are still looking for funding. In terms of taking payments, the key thing about any business partner you work with is they have to want to make it happen. I found a partner like that in Europe, I had to register in Europe to get an account at Wire Card. We were put into the “high risk merchant” division.

We’re getting decent rates and can process Mastercard and Visa. We come up as a “high risk” code, which causes people to receive alerts on their credit card for fraud. Our community will call their banks to explain what the transaction is. There’s strong support from community members.”

Read more about Cindy’s thoughts on people’s perception of the sex industry, censorship, and “the long game” here!

Written by Kat George for Bustle.  Originally published November 7th, 2014.

“Having sex in the shower is hard (*wink*). The idea of it is hot as hell, but the expectation vs. the reality are often two completely different things. In your mind, you’ll be showering in full makeup, mascara completely un-smudged, standing so your back is arched perfectly and subtly to reveal a pert apple of a butt. You partner enters, his abs glistening slightly from the steam in the room. He joins you in the shower and slides easily into you from behind, and the water beats down on you but not enough that it goes in your eyes and makes you look squinty like you’d got temporary pink eye. This is the dream. This is not, in fact, what shower sex ever turns out to be.

The reality is you’re slipping and sliding around the place like an oily whale, trying to reconcile the discrepancy in height between you and your partner by ungracefully bending over and taking in so many lungfuls of water you think you might drown, and how the hell are the police going to explain to your mother that you died trying to get laid in the shower? Add to that: small showers, dirty showers, cold showers, showers with low water pressure, showers with high water pressure etc. etc. and you’ll find that sexy shower time is something you really have to WORK for. The first step is letting go of the idea that James Bond is going to appear from no where to fuck you like you’re in a romance novel.

All that being said, sex in the shower can be fun. It can be sexy, and it can be extremely rewarding. (And to be honest, I was really exaggerating the possibility of death anyway.) Here are 9 pieces of advice from me, who has successfully had sex in the shower in maybe 3 out of 5 attempts (which is a solid ratio in my mind), about how you can have sex in the shower with the least amount of risk and the most amount of dignity:

1. DON’T WORRY ABOUT GETTING WET (BA-DOOM CHHH! PUN INTENDED)

To read the rest of these steamy (pun intended) tips, check out the rest of the list here! We love this piece because #realworldsex is sometimes awkward or messy but always definitely still worth it!

Wanna see some shower-centric action? Check out these videos from MLNPstars Annie Ochs and Thelma Sleaze!

Parents with teenage sons playing Grand Theft Auto, and everyone else – WATCH THIS CLIP

“The New, Graphic First-Person Sex With Hookers in “Grand Theft Auto V” Is Seriously Disturbing

Nobody plays a Grand Theft Auto game to get a lesson in morality. The massively successful game series has been the subject of countless outraged op-eds about its graphic sex and violence since its debut in 1997. Nearly two decades in, the outcry is only going to get louder, just in time for the holidays: Rockstar Games’ update of GTA V includes first-person mode, which means first-person sex and violence.

The first-person mode is already getting rave reviews, for its vibrant, detailed graphics, and for enhancing “raw thrill-seeking” gameplay elements like jumping out of a plane and fist-fighting. The color of your world even changes if you put sunglasses on your character. But some critics are noting the first-person mode makes the controversial moments feel a little too real. “Hoo boy,” Kotaku notes in its review. “GTA‘s infamous violence and sex both take on a whole new potency when viewed through the first-person perspective.” You can open fire on innocent people in shocking, gory detail. And, of course, you can have sex with a prostitute up-close; all the action was obscured behind closed doors previously.

Written by Elizabeth Griffon for Cosmopolitan.  Originally published September 4th, 2014.

We love this piece because we want to feature differently abled #realworldsex on MLNP.tv! We welcome submissions from folks who want to show us what awesome disabled #realworldsex looks like.

“I see disability as a mirror for society,” says photographer Olivier Fermariello. “Most of us belong to the 99 percent of people who do not fit in the standards of manipulated beauty.”

With his series, Je t’aime moi aussi, Fermariello opted to push the dialogue about physical beauty further, photographing what has (sadly) often been a taboo subject: the sex lives of people who have physical disabilities.

“Diversity is scary for people,” says Fermariello, “because it reflects our far from perfect appearance. When it gets to matters like sexuality and disability, we usually feel uncomfortable and we rather not want to talk about.”

See the rest of Fermariello’s beautiful, thoughtful, and NSFW photographs here.

Our time together is getting sweeter and sweeter by the day! With more and more people joining our community and becoming MLNPstars, we’ve recently had more new #realworldsex to share with you than ever! And oh, it feels so good! Continuing this trend, this week we’re bringing you four brand new #realworldsex videos, three brand new MLNPstars, and four sweet, sweet favorites from the archives, including videos from Redfox, Modesty Ablaze, Violet+Rye, and Lily Cade!

lovesurfsing indulges in sensual candlelit #metime…houndsoflove give us a peek into the rosy exploration of young lovers…TIGERLILY prove that five children and six years of marriage do nothing to dampen the flame of a fiery #realworldsexlife…Cato make romping, tender love that sends a message of caring and gentleness to themselves and the world.

 MakingSweetSweetLoveNotPorn:

lovesurfsing

Inspired by the message of MLNP, brand new MLNPstar lovesurfsing translates a moment of sexual excitement while reading into a visual poem of self-love. With candlelight casting shadows on the wall behind him, he slowly builds erotic tension using his imagination, hands, and a little bit of coconut oil. A wonderful example of what we look for in male solo videos, you must watch lovesurfing’s absolutely adorable intro video – something that will guarantee your wanting to watch his #metime #realworldsex!

houndsoflove

Brand new MLNPstars, houndsoflove, are a rosy vision of young love in their debut #realworldsex video. Lounging around in bed one lazy Saturday, coziness turns to horniness, and the lady half of the couple decides to give her lucky bf an incredible treat by showing him how she pleasures herself. This my friends, this is the stuff sweet, sweet memories are made of.

TIGERLILY

Married for 6 years, brand new MLNPstars TIGERLILY have always enjoyed a spicy #realworldsexlife – even with five kids to keep them busy! In their debut video, they sneak away to the attic and indulge in a long, satisfying round of lovemaking. With a seemingly intuitive knowledge of each other’s bodies – something that can only come from lots of practice – they tease and please one another for a full 35 mins before collapsing on their makeshift bed, happily spent.

Cato

With all the recent violence in their native Mexico, MLNPstars Cato know that what the world needs now more than ever is LOVE. Shot right before they moved out of their old apartment, this video sees them having #realworldsex against a huge window that overlooks the Mexico City street below. With tender massage and passionate romping that sees them making love all over the room, these two lovers send a message of caring and gentleness to themselves and the world.

 Redfox

Speaking of languorous massage and relieving tension, this classic #realworldsex video from Irish MLNPstars Redfox, sees the Mr. giving his Mrs. a generous rubdown followed by some sweet, sweet release. Sensual and romantic, Redfox most certainly share our MLNPstars’ belief that love and #realworldsex are things to be savoured.

 Lily Cade

What do you look for in an ideal lover? Should they be GGG or Good, Giving, and Game, as writer Dan Savage suggests? If so, look no further than Lily Cade – a lover who embodies these qualities in spades. In this video, after detailing the sweet, sweet delights of sharing a closet and using it as a secret passageway for late night booty calls, Lily and her new roommate Ashley share the scorching hot #realworldsex they already have with MLNP.tv! From beautiful smiling faces in the throes of orgasm to playful backdoor fun, this video might make you consider looking for a sexy roommate of your own!

ModestyAblaze

MLNPstar Modesty Ablaze is an everyday London Lady in the streets and a queen between the sheets! Not only that, she’s also one of the best examples of someone who takes long, languorous, staying-in #realworldsex sessions to the next level by indulging in regular sleepovers with her husband and one of their many lovers. In this video, we’re treated to an intense threesome with lover no. 36! From tender foreplay to an intense, no-holds-barred romp – Modesty shows us how to relax, let go, and really enjoy an evening (or entire weekend) in.

 Violet+Rye

In a #realworldsex sesh littered with sweet, sweet lipstick kisses, our fave formerly-of-Brooklyn babes, Violet+Rye, treat us to a #realworldsex video inspired by none other than Beyonce! Adding some “lips” to her otherwise casual around-the-house-outfit (Rye’s shirt), Violet gets all worked up listening to some raunchy beats and then seduces Rye while leaving a tantalizing, love-colored trail in her wake!

Want to give our community the gift of your sweet, sweet #realworldsex? Check out our how-to section! Love the holidays and #realworldsex? Send us your holiday-themed videos by Dec 17th at the latest, and you could appear in our very special MakeHolidayLoveNotPorn edition!

Written by Elke Govertson for Mamalode.  Originally published December 3rd, 2014.

“Cindy Gallop is a TED superstar, leader in the advertising world and now, a voice for how porn is teaching misconceptions about sex. Mamalode’s publisher met her last year and their discussion about how porn impacts children (and their parents) was mind blowing.

Mamalode: Talk to us about children’s exposure to pornography.

CINDY: The average age today at which a child is first exposed to hardcore porn online is eight. Two years ago, the New York Times acknowledged this with an article ‘When Children See Internet Pornography’ on what to do when children see Internet porn. In fact, USA Today published a global study last year that indicates the age has dropped even lower, to six.

This is not because 6-year-olds go looking for porn. It’s because of what is now inevitable in the digital world we live in today, and unfortunately cannot be prevented, no matter how much we would like it to be. It’s a function of what your child is shown on someone’s cell phone in the playground; what happens when your child goes round to a neighbor’s house—because it doesn’t matter what parental controls you have in place at home, your kids live their lives in other places; or, because this is the most wired generation ever, and in many privileged households 6-year-olds have their own iPad—a 6-year-old does something cute and innocent. They learn a new naughty word, they google it—and one or two clicks away is something they never expected to find.

At MakeLoveNotPorn we have numerous examples of this. Parents write to us all the time with these stories. A father wrote to me on Facebook last year in a message headed, ‘My wife and I cannot thank you enough for what you’re doing’. He said, “We have a 10-year-old son, and we decided it was time to have the sex talk. So I sat down with him, and he said to me, ‘Daddy, why do men wear masks when they’re having sex?’ We have parental controls on our iPad, and my son has somehow managed to find his way to a site where men wear masks when they’re having sex. We can’t thank you enough for what you’re doing. When he’s older, we’re sending him to your site.” These children can be traumatized by what they see, before they have any understanding of what sex is, and years before they ever have their own first sexual experiences. If this is not addressed, they grow up into young men who display the kind of behavior learnt from porn that inspired me to start MakeLoveNotPorn, and they grow up into young women like the one who wrote to us only a few weeks ago:

“Hi Make Love Not Porn team,

I just came across your company through a blog (swiss-miss.com) that posted a video of Cindy Gallop speaking about your mission and MakeLoveNotPorn.

As a 19-year-old, I have been in situations in which I’ve been treated like I was on the set of a porn film, treated as though I was a dummy or a doll for their experiments and re-enactments. I’m relieved to know that there are people advocating for society to recognize that porn is not the same as real-life sex. My generation needs to truly understand this.

Thank you.”

Read the full interview here!

What does amazing #realworldsex look and feel like to you? Is it sweet and sensual, randy and romping, or something else entirely? Often, one person’s version of AmazingBlissedOutMindBlowing #realworldsex can look completely different from someone else’s – or different even from what had their toes curling last week!

This week, in celebration of the variety of styles, moods, and moves that make up amazing #realworldsex, we’re bringing you four brand new videos, including a video from brand new MLNPstars Fox+Aphrodite, and four classics from MLNPstars ALEX-ANNA, Magic Lovers, xxxotter, and bilikescifi! Each with a unique feel and tone, they all share this important detail:  they leave our MLNPstars feeling AMAZING – something I hope you’ll feel too as you watch them.

Fox+Aphrodite express their love in the tub…Lily Cade and #realworldgirlfriend Jess Gatsby tear the sheets off the bed and blow each other’s minds…Redfox tease and titillate in a way that builds to an explosive climax…Doris_Dawn impress each other with their stamina and skill in a sexy stand-up scenario…in a video that needs to be seen to be believed, xxxotter uses a few gentle tweaks of his nipples to bring himself to full-body orgasm.

MakingAmazingLoveNotPorn:

Fox+Aphrodite

Making their debut on MLNP.tv this week, brand new MLNPstars Fox+Aphrodite charm us with one of the sweetest, most romantic, and realest blow jobs we’ve ever seen! Soaking in a luxuriously big hotel bathtub after a holiday party, Aphrodite is more than happy to treat her lover to a messy orgasm, followed by some ADORABLE bathtub talk about naps, baths, and how much they love each other. (Seriously, you need to watch their intro video!). Sweet, simple and mind-blowing all at the same time, you can tell this is an amazing evening they won’t soon forget.

Redfox

MLNPstar all-stars Redfox really knock it out of the park with this latest video. Featuring Fox’s trademark racy lingerie and a whole lot of sensual teasing, what makes this session really stand out is how in awe these two are of how amazing they can make each other feel. Proving over and over again that a little creativity and a lot of passion can take a regular weekday and turn it into a night to remember, Redfox seem to only get better and better.

Lily Cade

In this extra special #realworldsex video, Lily Cade and #realworldgirlfriend Jess Gatsby tear the sheets off the bed and blow each other’s minds. While Lily of course loves getting it on with lots of different women, somewhat to her amazement Lily has found herself completely enamoured with Jess, in a way she hasn’t felt since meeting her wife. And, it’s not hard to see why – their chemistry is explosive! Thanks to Lily’s expertly skilled fingers (and fist!) Jess has orgasm after orgasm – all while wearing nothing but a pair of bright orange socks. Interrupting the action only to say, “I need to get back on the bed,” these two amaze each other with pleasure for a full 35 mins before collapsing in blissed-out puddle of sexual satisfaction.

Doris_Dawn

One thing we love about Hungarian marrieds, Doris_Dawn, is that they never shy away from a sexy challenge. In this impressive and athletic video, they shun the bedroom in favor of stand-up #realworldsex on the parquet floor. And, Doris even leaves her heels on! Happy and giggling and flushed with pleasure, I think even these MLNPstars are amazed by their chemistry and stamina, something they’ve no doubt honed during all their years together.

 bilikesscifi

Intrigued by the idea of watching her ample breasts swing mid-#realworldsex, Elizabeth Bi and her fiance introduce a new HD camera into their afternoon delight. Caught up in the yumminess of pleasing her partner, Elizabeth gets lost in the moment until her fiance spins her around and gently bends her over the bed making her scream YES!YES!YES! Is there a better way to spend a lazy Saturday than being taken surprise by multiple orgasms? I can’t think of one.

Magic Lovers

Italian MLNPstars Magic Lovers hardly have a chance to get each other’s clothes off before their explosive passion takes over. In this video, shot in a hotelroom during a mini-vacation in Rome, these two engage in an intense tryst filled with pretzel-like positions and sexy Italian phrases. #realworldsex just the way Magic Lovers like it? Sorprendente!

 xxxotter

In this breathtaking video, one that really must be seen to be believed, MLNPstar xxxotter engages in a #realworldselflove session where he brings himself to a full-body orgasm through nipple stimulation alone. Taking time to tease himself and indulge in fantasy, his body is a testament to the intricacies of #realworldmalearousal and #realworldmalebeauty. Amazing, indeed.

 ALEX-ANNA

Lying head to toe, adorable couple ALEX-ANNA talk about their day. First soothing each other’s stress with soft reassurances, they soon find themselves looking to ease the tension of a long day with some spontaneous #realworldsex. Both tender and intense, these two show us how mind-blowing #realworldsex can happen at any time, in any mood, so long as you’re with the person who makes you feel amazing.

What does amazing #realworldsex look like to you? Be it solo, with a partner, or multiple partners, we want to see it! Check out our submission criteria here and then get filming!

By MLNPstars  Violet + Rye

After wrapping up editing on these last two videos, we took a little trip to the past and reviewed the (lucky) 13 videos we’ve made for MakeLoveNotPorn since the launch all those years ago (congrats on another year older!).

13 videos is a lot of videos. Spread out over time, those videos cover a lot of our life together.

Going through the collection, we know what was happening around the time we made them. Certain things we don’t really share with people on this blog, but let’s just say there were a few different apartments, multiple cities, a vacation or two and some rather massive life events in between them. New jobs, old jobs, surgery, recovery, and now a totally new life all together. Like a yearbook of sex.

Our life looks a lot different than it did when we started submitting videos to MakeLoveNotPorn. We’re older for starters. We’re in a new place. We’re in business together. We’re seeing each other a lot more. And we’re able to contribute a lot less. But overall, this aspect of our life together is an important one to us, so there’s a tether still keeps us clinging on.

Making these new videos felt great. Like riding a bike we’d left to gather rust in the backyard. It took a minute to shake it off. To figure out if we still even knew how to make a good video. To have the kind of sex that involves one of us holding a camera.

Don’t worry, the answer is yes.

These new videos are important, as the kind of sex we have now can often be rushed. We spend a lot of time together now, no longer are we just hanging out for one day a week. We had nights before, and a weekend day, so those moments you long for and cherish and make last. Now, it’s the day to day, which you can take for granted. We’re aware of that trap, and as is always the case, we have an open dialogue about it. If sex feels not frequent enough, not considered enough, not lingering enough, not prioritized enough, it’s talked about. So to make these videos, to set aside the time to really linger, to really appreciate, to focus on legs and arms and hair and lips and subtleties and hushed sounds is important.

If you’ve never made a video with your partner, we can’t recommend it enough. But don’t just put a camera in a corner. Use it. Hold it. Move with it. Watch as you film. Take your partner in, focus on the details, focus on the breathing, focus on the silences, focus on the little hairs, the eyes open eyes closed eyes open eyes really open. It’s not just capturing a moment, it’s capturing what words can’t capture about the moment.

It’s an opportunity to show other people what you see when you look at the one (or ones!) you care about. And when you’re done, submit it. Or don’t submit it. Keep it close, but at least consider sharing it. Because the world needs more of this kind of affection, unbridled emotion and love.

 Read more from our MLNPstars, including previous posts from Violet+Rye, here.

Follow Violet+Rye on their blog, twitter and tumblr.

Stop whatever is is you’re doing because Christmas has come early this year. (Or, the third day of Hanukkah is really delivering this year, your choice). And, who is responsible for this holiday miracle you ask? Why, it’s MLNPstars Violet+Rye – coming to us, and coming for us, from a brand new location – a little bit older, and a little bit wiser, but no less committed to the art of sharing their #realworldsex. Glory hallelujah!

I was having a look at what I wrote about V+R the last time we did a special edition dedicated just to them, and well folks, I’m not entirely sure I can top it: Violet+Rye are hotttt. Violet+Rye’s sheets, lingerie, and yoga mats are pretty to look at. Violet+Rye have fabulous taste in creative commons music. Violet+Rye have amazing #realworldsex.

And, then I think I hit on the thing that I love the most about Violet+Rye – something that’s always there lingering in their videos and in the words they write on their blog, something really important that remains even without the music and the deep focus, and the delicious aesthetics. The thing that drew them to MLNP.tv in the first place.

Violet+Rye are just like us. That is, really real and they need to make and find time for sexy fun, too. These are Violet+Rye’s extra special moments.

Just like everyone else with jobs and commitments and #realworldlives, these two don’t always have the time or energy to take time a revel in each other’s bodies. In fact, it sounds like they have even less time now, but that hasn’t stopped them from keeping their lines of sexual communication open, and making some special space to get back into their filming groove. As they’ve written in their brand new MLNPstars Speak post, “making these new videos felt great. Like riding a bike we’d left to gather rust in the backyard. It took a minute to shake it off.”

Knowing V+R aren’t always having fly-me-to-the-moon #realworldsex with perfect lingerie and sheets, makes their videos all the more enjoyable and inspirational, because they’re a testament to the beauty of taking the time to rediscover your passions in the midst of everyday life. And, what a gift that truly is!

Violet+Rye spend a cozy winter evening by the fireplace and turn up the heat…Violet treats herself to a morning self-love session with her fave toy…Rye bends over and receives some backdoor pleasure from his willing wife…and so, so much more!

Violet+Rye are back!

Fireside.

Well, the weather outside was frightful, but the fire was so delightful. And since they were dying to get-down like crazy, Violet+Rye had sensual, intense #realworldsex and generated more heat than any burning log could. Also, pretty sure this video inspired this tweet: “@UCAppetites The best part of a winter beard? Going down on her and carrying the scent with you the rest of the day.”

Violet. Solo.

While at first I was a little jealous as I watched Violet root through her and Rye’s substantial toy drawer at the beginning of this video, all the green in me soon vanished as I watched this pretty lady get down with herself unabashed while her husband filmed. There really are so many beautiful moments to behold, but my faves are Violet’s tummy tightening as she laughs at Rye, and her lovely gasps as she reaches orgasm. Rye’s awed reaction when Violet introduces her fingers to the mix is an added bonus.

 Lips, bitches.

Leave it to Violet+Rye,to share a sassy #realworldsex videos inspired by none other than Beyonce! Adding some “lips” to her otherwise casual around-the-house-outfit (Rye’s shirt), Violet gets all worked up listening to some raunchy beats and then seduces Rye while leaving a tantalizing trail of kiss marks in her wake!

 Cocktail Hour.

To celebrate their first day off together in quite some time, Violet+Rye get naked, break out their “special occasion” bourbon and have #Smack-dabInTheMiddleOfTheKitchen #realworldsex. My favorite moment? Watching Violet’s spine arch more and more over the kitchen counter while Rye works a hitachi magic wand between her legs.

Coffee in bed.

On a rare Saturday where there’s no immediate reason to jump out of bed and rush out the door, Violet + Rye spend a leisurely afternoon naked in bed, sipping iced coffee, cuddling and enjoying some sensual #realworldsex. From the clinking of ice in their tall glasses of caffeinated-goodness, to the light hitting their entangled, sun-drenched limbs, this video is feast for the senses and a tribute to the perfect lazy Saturday.

Snow day.

This wintertime offering is so cozy you could swear it was shot in a remote cabin by a blazing fire instead of in an apartment in snowed-over Brooklyn. Luckily, these two don’t need a fire to keep nice and hot and their teasing pillow talk provides atmospheric crackle better than any burning log could. Demonstrating that #realworldsex should never end without all parties satisfied, Violet turns Rye’s a-little-too-quick release into an opportunity to grind herself into oblivion.

A taste of Violet.

In this video, our lovers spend a sunny afternoon post-farmers market eating each other up like they might a couple of juicy seasonal-berry samples. Drenched in light and full of sweet giggles and soft expressions of affection, this is #realworlddomesticbliss.

Yoga.

Paying homage to the everyday domestic truth that your lover becomes irresistible the moment they start doing naked yoga in the living room, this video starts by showcasing violet’s cute ponytail and considerable flexibility. It isn’t long before Rye puts the camera down and joins in, making his first appearance in a beautiful soft-focus moment of backdoor licking that has Violet gasping with delighted surprise.

Rye pegged.

The first #realworldsex video on MLNP.tv to showcase the joys of pegging, this tender and intense round of girl-on-boy backdoor lovin’ is a testament to the pleasures that can be discovered once ideas of “proper” straight sex are tossed out the window. Levelling the playing field (so to speak) with a long, sensual warm up for both Violet and Rye, “Rye pegged,” really showcases how in tune these two are and will hopefully serve as inspiration to talk about your fantasies with your partner(s).

Use your hands.

As we’ve seen so far, Violet+Rye love to explore new sexy possibilities. But, they also know that that doesn’t mean you have to abandon the things that came (heh) before. In this video, our lovebirds get creative with a classic handjob by adding plenty of baby oil and lots of varied and sensual strokes.

Rye solo.

One of the things I adore about Violet+Rye’s videos is how they both take turns filming each other during their #realworldsex sessions so that we can see as much of the action as possible while getting two different POVs. But, as you’ve probably noticed, Rye really can’t get enough of capturing his lover’s ample curves, and while we could look at Violet all day, sometimes a viewer can’t help but want a little more admiration of the male form. That’s what makes this video so hot. It has all of the hallmarks of a great Violet+Rye video – beautiful colors, soft focus, backdoor exploration – but this time the camera is turned exclusively on Rye making love to himself. And, darling, this should prove once and for all it’s not just women who love foreplay!

Summer quickie.

Man, do Violet+Rye sure know how to capture the certain je ne sais quoi that goes along with each season! Whether it’s the shots of Violet in the shower getting her summer trimmin’ on, images of flowers in bloom or the palpable summer stickiness as these two make love over the kitchen counter, this video will transport you away and put an immediate spring in more than just your step.

Saturday morning.

Bless Violet+Rye for giving Madam Curator what she wants without even having to ask! In this video, something so rarely given its due in #pornworldsex – I’ll call it the toytime assist – is brought into well-deserved focus. Because, who doesn’t like a helping hand while laying down on the floor with your favorite toy? Bonus: erotic shots of coffee because, this is Violet+Rye guys, come on.

Don’t you just love how Violet+Rye capture the joys of their everyday #realworldsexlife? Well, they love watching you! Check out our previous editions for inspiration and then share some #realworldsex of your own!

Also, guys, take a note from Rye’s playbook and film your own #metime video! Just don’t forget to read our tips first.

Follow Violet+Rye on their blog, twitter and tumblr, because RADNESS.

Ho Ho Ho darling, Merry Christmas! Whatever your seasonal celebration of choice, I hope you’re as excited as I am to kick back, relax, and enjoy some extra special holiday #realworldsex! Because, really, who doesn’t love taking some time off from the everyday, whether it’s in a tropical locale like Modesty Ablaze or right in the comfort of your own home like AllenandtheJean?

With four brand new videos this week, as well as four holiday #realworldsex classics to devour, there’s plenty waiting for you under the MLNP.tv Xmas tree!

AllenandtheJean have a playful #bythetree tryst…Knight+Jade delight in a spanking-good time while away at a fetish weekend…Magic Lovers romp in their Italian hotel room…Modesty Ablaze gets hot and bothered in Greece…

 MakingHolidayLoveNotPorn:

AllenandtheJean

As we learned this time last year, Jean of AllenandtheJean positively loves Christmas! To get into the spirit this time around, she dons a suggestive Elf costume and models it for Allen while he sits on their gorgeous couch wearing a santa hat and puffing on a pipe. Then, with their signature playfulness, these two MLNPstars go at it in an intense #bythetree tryst! Or as they put it:

Twas the night before Christmas
Allen puffed on his pipe
Jean came along
looking quite ripe

Allen waited still
in his robe and red hat
Jean in fur trim
to sit in his lap

Jean opened her mouth
As the magic took hold
Treating Allen to pleasures
so swift and so bold

Join us as we spread
some holiday cheer
while wishing you all
a Happy New Year!

Modesty Ablaze

On holiday in Greece (just writing that makes me jealous) Modesty Ablaze and her husband relax and soak up some rays by the pool. It’s not long before Modesty starts feeling hot and bothered in a good way and suggest she and hubby retire to their pool-adjacent room for some afternoon delight! What follows is a titillating AND informative DIY kink session in which mistress Modesty dominates her more-than-willing sub with a series of household items that double as tools of erotic torture.

Knight+Jade

Lovely Canadian MLNPstars Knight+Jade are back with an equally adorable and intense video captured while on holiday at a kinky fetish event. Shot late at night in their hotel room, Jade gets the party started before Knight even has time to turn on the camera. Both dressed to the hilt in their favorite latex outfits, these two tease and please each other to the point of no return more than a few times before collapsing, happily spent.

Magic Lovers

Also returning this week are MLNPstars Magic Lovers! Making a mini-holiday out of a work trip, once inside their hotel room, our hot and heavy Italians break out the lingerie and quickly get down to what they love best – intense backdoor action and exuberant fellatio. Completely consumed by one another until the very last second of this video, you can see the joy on this lady’s face as her partner reaches his peak.

 Redfox

God, I love Redfox:

“Every Xmas Eve we have some private fun once the kids are asleep dreaming about Santa.  We open our special ‘grown ups only’ Xmas Eve gifts and then we have a lot of fun trying out whatever is in our packages.  It is true that we didn’t get to use everything on this occasion as I got really carried away with one of my gifts and then just wanted to suck him, be licked and be fucked….I love Christmas!”

WeMegiddoStyle

MrandMrsLau

Captured in the captain’s cabin during a boat journey from England to the Netherlands, this video by British couple MrandMrsLau shows how even getting from point A to B can be a sexy part of your holiday! Holding the MLNP.tv record for having the shortest but most explosive #realworldsex video debut, this slice of vacation bliss has left our members panting for more. And, from recent tweets, it seems MrandMrsLau are more than happy to oblige – something we’re thrilled about both because of their hotness and generosity. Leave it to these two to naturally bring together the holiday traditions of indulgence and giving in one little video.

AllenandtheJean

Back when they were newly-minted MLNPstars, AllenandtheJean brought us the first round of their seriously sultry Christmas-themed #realworldsex. Expect: a delightfully adult-themed Xmas outfit, special spirits and a veritable tour of their living room as this randy couple romp in front of the Xmas tree.

Are these videos making you feel frisky? You know I don’t mind if I get my present late. Share your #realworldsex on MLNP.tv and it’ll feel like Christmas all over again!

By MLNPstars Redfox 

After two years of being part of the MLNP universe, we thought it appropriate to reflect on our journey so far. In other words we felt we should write some stuff about it! Back in the summer when the dreaded gremlins struck the MLNP network, something became gradually more and more apparent to us.

We came to realize that making and contributing our MLNP videos had become a much more significant part of our sex lives than either one of us could ever have imagined.

God, we missed the excitement of uploading our newest videos during that time. Almost two years ago we uploaded our first video to the network; to be honest we treated it as a kind of sexual experiment as neither of us had participated in anything like it before. We have always been open to new ideas sexually, but the idea of others watching us having sex had never occurred to us. We genuinely did not know if we would be ‘turned on’ or ‘terrified’ if someone actually rented that first video! During those first few days we had no intention of repeating the process…..but we did. And then we did it again, and again and again.  Over a twelve month period I think we uploaded 6 or maybe 7 videos (Sarah will have the stats!). It quickly became clear that we were more comfortable with the idea than we thought possible.

So what changed in terms of our attitudes and approach to the whole thing?

Firstly we both appreciated what the site was trying to do, and it prompted us to have some really interesting conversations around our attitudes to sex and porn; it also generated an added spark to our sex lives.

We’ve been together for 19 years, and our sex life has always been good, but this new element really added something new.  Having a family and working long hours can take its toll on any relationship, and sometimes it can be hard to find the energy to spend quality physical time with your partner.  But we quickly found that setting some time aside to film ourselves really turned both of us on…a great deal.

We found (and still find) that the anticipation was and is almost as good as the act of filming itself.  We would tease each other with texts about what we would like to try next, and where, and how and what we would use, etc.  Those kind of texts can really brighten up a long day at work!  Sometimes we got so turned on messaging each other that we didn’t get to the filming part at all – by the time we got home we just went for it.  But isn’t that kind of the point.  We have always treated our filming as just a chance to spend quality time with each other, giving each other pleasure and then getting pleasure from watching our finished videos back later.  There is an added thrill to think that others might get turned on and enjoy watching our videos, but that certainly isn’t the primary motivation for making them.  After almost 20 years together we thought we had exhausted the sex manual….we were wrong!

Making our videos has also made us even more honest about what we want from each other sexually.  We are more open and honest with each other than ever; we are comfortable sharing the most intimate of secrets and fantasies, even more than before, and we have some great times lying together watching our videos back, reflecting on the experiences we had filming and getting turned on all over again!

We feel that every member of MLNP who has contributed videos deserves a round of applause; promoting #realworldsex is positive and worthy of our investment.  Every MLNP member will have their own tastes and approach things in their own way – we love making and sharing our videos but being honest we don’t really rent other videos, not because we don’t like them but because it just isn’t our thing….right now.

We have been very lucky to be able to treat our family with our MLNP earnings so we decided this year that we would contribute a portion of our earnings each payday to the site. In this way we feel that we are giving something back to something we have benefitted greatly from, and it helps us be more comfortable with the fact that we aren’t renting any of the other videos at this point in time.

In the future we may well decide to dive in and explore the experiences of the other MLNP members, but for now making and sharing is our thing.

 So how far have we come in our time with MLNP?  Well if someone had told us two years ago that today we would have shared 15 videos of our most intimate experiences with around 4000 people I think you might guess our response. But that is what has happened, and we feel really good about it.  We still have some way to go, and we still have our hang ups.  We were talking about this with Sarah the other day; for some reason we are fine with sharing explicit sexual images, but the cuddling and private stuff after….for now that’s still just for us.  It may sound weird but we are still growing in confidence with regards to what we will share, and while we truly love the experience, some small bits are still for our eyes only!  But I think we have grown in the last two years and have become braver with our videos and I think that will continue to develop into year three.

So there you go, our ramblings are complete.  We hope our experiences with MLNP continue into year three.  We feel really lucky to have had so much fun over the last two years.

Anyone out there who reads this and thinks ‘I’d never do that’, might find themselves where we are in a couple of years time.  Have fun filming folks, and if there are watchers out there who have enjoyed our videos so far, well then that is absolutely great.

Take care,

Redfox

Watch Redfox’s brand new video here!

Read more from Redfox and our other MLNPstars in our MLNPstars Speak section.

By Christopher Zeischegg aka Danny Wylde of Asphyxia<3Danny. Originally published by Nerve, under the title How a Former Porn Star’s Sex Tape Helped Him Reclaim His Sex Life, on April 3, 2014.

“To make things even crazier, [right as I left the adult industry] I was at the beginning of a new relationship. I’d gone on two dates with a girl and we were crushing hard. I didn’t reveal the extent of my fears, but she knew we’d have to wait if we were to have sex again. And we did. The girl of two dates slept next to me during my recovery. Then she helped me to rediscover my arousal in its natural state.

Shortly thereafter, the circumstances of her life changed, leaving her with a vulnerability that matched my own. Mutual uncertainty and emotional chaos allowed us to latch onto each other in the most intense way possible. If there’s something called “falling in love,” our course was speed railing through it.

I looked back on my sexual history and realized that I’d done my first porn scene when I was 19. Prior to that, I hadn’t had a serious partner. My new relationship marked the first time in my life where I could experience sexual monogamy. Sex with my girlfriend was still a form of play, but something about it became more personal. After fucking a thousand people, I felt more attached to just the one. 

I didn’t miss performing as much as I thought I would. But there was a part of it that I didn’t want to lose completely. I liked the act of sharing my sex, and I liked the feedback. So I talked to my new girlfriend about making our own video — one that showcased the intensely personal sex we were having now.

We had to set a date or I knew it wouldn’t happen.

The morning of, we had sex. And again several hours later. It was normal. We were addicted to each other’s bodies. When we were alone together, I wanted as much of her as I could get.

But the day was half over and we’d done nothing to prepare for our shoot. So I began to set up a couple of tripods and attach a few lights to the ceiling. She began to apply her makeup. Not that she wouldn’t have sex with me without her face made up, but this was intended for an audience. She wanted to feel beautiful.

“What if our video isn’t as good as the one you made with your ex?” she asked. We were going to use the same start-up company to host our video. The content I’d created with my ex-girlfriend was a big part of its launch. However, this attempt felt different. I was still a porn star the first time I shared my personal sex. The time away from performing made me feel like a boy playing games he hadn’t meant for others to see.

“Don’t worry,” I said. “We’re perfect together. It will be.”

We dawdled along. She joked about no longer wanting to do the video. I suggested that we call it off. Then she reassured me that it was still a good idea. “I want everyone to see how in love we are.”

Eventually, we found ourselves in bed together. The room was bright and silent. Two cameras pointed towards us. I’d hastily set them up. They weren’t even running at the same frame rate.

My girlfriend laughed. “Who makes love with the lights on?”

She was nervous, so I tried to calm her. But this wasn’t a way we’d ever made love. It was usually on her bed, but she’d have music or cartoons playing in the background. We’d already be touching, or I’d look at her a certain way and it would have to happen. We might be under sheets in the morning, or getting dressed to go out at night. Never with the covers purposefully pushed aside, drowned in silence, and peering over at a pair of prosumer lenses.

The anxiety I’d felt as a young performer came back as strong as ever. We’d built this moment up to be the most perfect expression of our desire for each other. But my body was shutting down and I was beginning to panic. I could feel the cameras on me even though nobody stood behind them. 

I’d done it a thousand times with people I’d barely met, and in the most stressful environments. Yet, I couldn’t get my cock hard while in bed with the girl I loved. I’d often whisper to her that I thought we could do anything together. Our post-porn video seemed like the worst act to prove me wrong.

I moved on in hopes to repair my fractured ego, and to prove whatever it is I thought she needed to know. Her legs opened and I put my mouth on her. It should have turned me on. But I mostly thought of it as something that had to happen.

In a porn film, she’d be sucking my cock. So of course I should have gone down on her first. This video was about real life and real pleasure. I wanted my girlfriend to feel like I’d do anything to please her. Except it wasn’t working. My body was dissociating from my favorite act in the world.

We tried having sex slowly, sweetly, while kissing, and laying close together. It felt like something that should be real, so I hoped that I’d be forced to believe it. Eventually, we stopped to laugh and smile awkwardly. We tried to take the pressure off ourselves. “This isn’t for the video,” she said. “But it’s cute what we’re doing.”

I knelt between her legs and touched her. There was an apology inside of me that I couldn’t even speak. I think she understood. She moved beyond acceptance and offered something back.

“You want to hurt me?” It was a game that had defined us from the beginning of our relationship. She saved our #realworldsex video by making it real.

I didn’t think of our sex as over-the-top violent, but we’d shoved needles through each other, and I’d slapped and punched her skin. Part of what made our relationship work was the constant affirmation of something slightly beyond reach. It was a mix of the utopian love seen in Disney films and the desperate, violent need to know someone written in Dennis Cooper novels. Our love had to be forever and our sex had to move beyond this life. We wanted our story to be some fucked up fairy tale come true.

So I choked and slapped my girlfriend and made love to her on camera. She responded in a way that made me forget about everything else. 

After years of porn, I thought I’d worked past the fear of performative sex. After ending my career, I thought it didn’t matter. The video with my girlfriend wasn’t supposed to be a performance. It was supposed to be real.

We eventually got there – to some degree. But the reality of the first 15 minutes (and maybe more that I edited out) is not necessarily the reality of our sex. It’s our vulnerability, our attempt to share something we’d developed just for each other.

What happens thereafter is hard to define. It’s different than porn and different than reality. But I like the fact that not everything is accessible. I’m teaching my body to relate in a different way, and it feels good to know that some of that is only available to my partner. 

Our video shows how I make love to my girlfriend at home, but for “you.” It’s my nervous dip into failure because I think there’s something more you want to see. With the cameras off, though, it’s different. I like that you may never know how.”

Read the full post here.

We’re so proud of Danny and Asphyxia and all the growing they’ve done together. For more context, check out the MUST SEE, SFW intro video for the video mentioned above and watch the full video. Then, check out their brand new #realworldsex video for MLNP.tv and its SFW intro, here.

Originally published on The Stir. 

“We’ve learned to see men as sex machines: Always ready to go, simple to operate, and always in control. But the reality could not be more different! Men are a lot less secure than we realize — but also more complex and more hungry for emotional connection. It turns out, the answers to the question “what do men want in bed” can be very surprising for women to hear, according to sex counselor Eric M. Garrison.

Are any of these a surprise to you? Which do you think your husband most likely wishes for?

7. Watch Porn Together

Read the full list here.

Read more about why we think couples can benefit from watching #realworldsex together, here.

By Hungarian MLNPstar Doris_Dawn

Hubby, always here for me, supportive as you know him, cheered me up, day and night. Out of his magic satchel of recipes (supplementing, romantic movie watching, lovemaking, etc.), he presented me a photo.

Yes, often times he surprises me with such a simple, trivial, thing. Looking at the image, I saw a naked lady, lying down on the sofa, legs wide open against a curious camera. “Nice,” said I, “is this the theme for our next photo shooting?”

Smiling, he answered that besides the photo shooting (yes) he wanted to see me get loose in a new erotic video. “How far?” I’ve asked, bit scared. “Show the world that you can masturbate, my dear bunny,” implied he – knowing that I hardly can reach an orgasm without his intervention. “Okay, I’ll do it!” Aware of my dare, I could see his eyes wide open. “Aha! You’ve expected me to resist. But I’m too tired resisting. I wish to let it go.

Watch all of Doris’ videos on MLNP.tv and follow her on twitter!

Has a return to the daily grind got you feeling a little listless? Has that mid-January sluggish feeling begun to seep in?

This week, just in time to lift you out of the mid-winter doldrums, I’m bringing you MakeSaucyLove – an edition jampacked with playful *and* seductive #realworldsex, showcasing everyday instances of hotness and fun!

Get ready for three brand new videos – including a new video from much adored but long absent MLNPstars MrandMrsLau – as well as 4 extra frolicsome classics from EAHeartXO, April Showers, Knight+Jade, and Lily Cade!

Honey & Sweetie make time for a goofy and seductive downtown session…MrandMrsLau forgo their everyday distractions in favour of more satisfying ones…Redfox make us nostalgic for Christmas in an all-over-the house romp.

MakingSaucyLoveNotPorn:

Honey & Sweetie

Adorable MLNPstars Honey & Sweetie are back this week with a goofy and seductive slice of everyday #realworldsex! As the backstory goes, Honey & Sweetie’s little one was out of house, and knowing this occasion was rare, Sweetie pounced on the opportunity to have a little fun with her Honey. Reviewing this video filled me with an overwhelming appreciation for #realworldlove and #realworldconnection – “I love love,” is one reaction I shared with curatorial assistant, Ariel. And by love I meant the kind that is giving, playful, and doesn’t take itself too seriously (see: blindfold used in video). Just witnessing Honey & Sweetie laugh together, talk together, and share intense arousal together (see: foot twitching) is a #realworldsex-watching delight.

MrandMrsLau

Returning to MLNP.tv with a brand new video after nearly two years away (!) much loved MLNPstars, MrandMrsLau do not disappoint! Feeling that her Mr. has been “ever such a good boy” that day, the Mrs. decides to indulge him with a downtown treat that ends with both of them extremely satisfied. While shot from the Mr.’s POV (an angle that has become a hallmark of mainstream porn) what I love about this video is that intense affection in the eyes of Mrs.Lau, as well as the way she makes sure to also get hers in the end, reveal a realness that is very much in the spirit of MakingLoveNotPorn. Wanting to make time in the middle of an otherwise ordinary day to have a little sexy fun and to show our partners we love and desire them is something I’m sure many of our members can relate to. And equally, I’m sure many can also relate to taking similar measures to get their partners away from the damn Playstation, as Mrs. Lau did!

Redfox

If you’re feeling nostalgic for Christmas then this new offering from Redfox is a must-see! Actually, it’s pretty much a must-see for everyone if you ask me, but especially if you love wives treating husbands to seductive lap dances, lingerie, the idea of getting it on while the kids are out of the house, the idea of getting it on ALL OVER said house, Xmas eve, a passionate exchange of pleasure, and last but certainly not least, snuggling! As they wrote in their most recent guest post, filming their #realworldsex and then sharing it on MLNP.tv has become a much bigger part of their lives than either Red or Fox had ever anticipated. And we couldn’t be more happy to have them, because we just can’t get enough of the way they (and other equally amazing MLNPstar couples) show us how fun, creative, and hot #realworldsex can be while (gasp!) married with kids.

EAHeartXO

In a now classic #realworldsex video, EAHeartXO and her long distance lover start a weekend getaway by playfully implementing a “no penetration” rule on the first night. Working each other into a frenzy with fingers, mouths, and plenty of spicy talk, you’re sure the revel in their explosive climax as well as the journey getting there. With its incredibly empowering display of hot-as-hell mid-life sexuality, as well as just remarkably embodied sexuality period this is a #realworldsex video I just can’t stop recommending. If you’re looking for sauciness, this is it.

 Knight + Jade

MLNPstars Knight + Jade have been together for nine years and still find plenty of time to rejoice in their hot and (occasionally) kinky #realworldsex. And, by finding time, I mean they make it. At the beginning of this video, Jade has plans to finally attack the growing pile of clothes on their bedroom floor but Knight playfully convinces her to shirk responsibility and give in to a frolicsome romp on their bed. Ah, the sauciness of pretending you want to do chores when all you want to do is get it on. Well played, Jade. Well played.

April Showers

In the midst of a family visit that sees their house filled to the rafters with relatives, April Showers and her husband decide to turn an ordinary day around the house into an extraordinary one by sneaking away for a little afternoon delight. Throwing caution (and their clothes) to the wind the minute they’re alone together  – even a brief interruption from an unsuspecting relative can’t keep them from making SweetTenderPlayfulGigglyOrgasmicLoveNotPorn!

Lily Cade

In this extra special #realworldsex video, Lily Cade and #realworldgirlfriend Jess Gatsby tear the sheets off the bed and blow each other’s minds. While Lily of course loves getting it on with lots of different women, somewhat to her amazement Lily has found herself completely enamoured with Jess, in a way she hasn’t felt since meeting her wife. And, it’s not hard to see why – their chemistry is explosive! Thanks to Lily’s expertly skilled fingers (and fist!) Jess has orgasm after orgasm – all while wearing nothing but a pair of bright orange socks. Interrupting the action only to say, “I need to get back on the bed,” these two amaze and saucily seduce each other with pleasure for a full 35 mins before collapsing in blissed-out puddle of sexual satisfaction.

Written by Jessica Blankenship for Bustle.  Originally published January 9th, 2015.

“I’ve always been of the opinion that, when it comes to sex, you shouldn’t walk into any situation with too many expectations. That said, it’s entirely healthy, constructive, and honestly really hot when someone goes into sex knowing what gets them off. The only downside to bedding a lady that awesome? She’s also very likely to know what turns her off too. Even the most adventurous, adaptable, and forgiving woman is still going to have a list of a few sexual faux pas that will put a hasty end to pretty much any romp.

3. “Lick in and around my ears.” - Anne, 28

4. “Baby talk.”- Sarah, 30″

There are 60 other equally cringe-worthy deal breakers on this list. You can find them here. 

Written by MLNP.tv CEO and Co-founder, Cindy Gallop, for Elle.  Originally published January 15th, 2014.

“MakeLoveNotPorn was an accident: I didn’t consciously set out to do what my team and I are now doing. But it’s literally the startup the world was begging for. I’m also equipped to make it work: I’ve spent 30 years working in the business of communication, and I know that everything great in business (and life) is a product of great communication. And sex is no different! Here, my top three rules to getting what you want while getting down:

1. Talk during sex.

Let’s face it: We all get vulnerable when we get naked. Sexual egos are fragile, which is why we can find it bizarrely difficult to talk about sex with the people we’re actually having it with. We worry that if we say anything at all about what’s going on, or comment on the action in any way whatsoever, that we might put our partner off, hurt their feelings, derail the encounter—even derail the whole relationship.

At the same time, we want to please our partner, and we want to be “good in bed.” This is where porn tropes too often come into play. Because in the absence of communication, we often latch on to cues about how to give someone a good time from anywhere we can. Not the greatest idea, really.

Every sexual partner you will ever have is different; what your last partner loved may not be what turns the next partner on; and part of the fun of sex is mutual exploration. Obviously, at a baseline level, talking during sex is about consent: making sure everyone is comfortable and happy with everything that’s going on. But talking during sex is also reassuring: it’s how you know that everyone is enjoying themselves. Plus, talking during sex is fun! This is when you share intimacies, find things out about each other, or simply have a laugh. And why not? Let’s face it: Sex is often (enjoyably) awkward, ridiculous, and screamingly funny. ”

Read the rest of Cindy’s advice on how to talk dirty when you get down, as well as watch the TED talk that started it all, here.