Hello darlings, due to the incredible popularity of my original post, 10 videos that make Madam Curator all tingly, I’ve decided to compile a new list of EVEN MORE videos that make me weak in the knees!

1. bzandgloria’s B’n B getaway

Craving some special time to relax and re-connect, bzandgloria depart on a weekend getaway and bring a sexy friend along to film their fun! All smiles and glowing under soft lamps, they feel their way toward each other and are soon enveloped in a practically-transcendental haze of warm, tender #realworldsex.

2. ThisIsOurHandle’s languorous love-fest

Friends and #realworldgaypornstars, Dale Cooper and Colby Keller, melt for each other in this playfully charged B&W tryst. Buff, fuzzy and adorable, they take their time teasing pleasure from each other all the way up to a crescendo of a climax that leaves them sharing sweet caresses on the floor of a mid-town loft.

3. lilycade and Zoe’s pride week lesbian seduction

It’s Pride week and Kara Price’s friend Zoe has decided to celebrate by having her first-ever lesbian experience with none other than lilycade! Nervous at first and not quite sure what to expect, Zoe’s trepidation vanishes as Lily pounces on her, kicking off a near-hour of tender lesbian seduction.

4. EAHeartXO’s explosive orgasms

This video makes me feel funny. You know, down there. Proving once and for all that penis/vagina penetration is not necessary for mind-blowingly hot straight sex, EAHeartXO and partner in crime perversonality quickly tease each other in to a soaking wet frenzy.

5. Fin’s late-afternoon, #stayinbedlovenotporn

MLNPstar Lily Labeau is back! And, this time she’s spending an afternoon in bed with her new lover Fin. The waning light peeking through the blinds decorates these two’s bodies beautifully and the chemistry between them is intense to say the least.

6. April Showers’ greenhouse fun

Brand new MLNPstar, AprilShowers, takes advantage of a beautiful Spring day by getting some gardening done AND enjoying some al fresco #realworldsex! Surprising her husband by watering the greenhouse sans panties, this happy duo are soon making love right out in the fresh air.

7. ALEX-ANNA’s nature trail tryst

ALEX-ANNA stroll along their favorite nature trail, lay down a blanket and make love in the fresh summer air. Beautifully lit by the afternoon light, these two lovebirds don’t let the bugs get in the way of relishing each other and their lush surroundings.

8. Redfox’s kitchen quickie 

With the kids away, Red and Fox realize that for the first time in a long time they have the house to themselves! Peeking around the corner of the living room while Red watches television, Fox beckons her husband to come enjoy a kitchen quickie. Red eagerly obliges, and soon has his wife half-dressed and pinned over the counter just the way she wanted.

9. Lily and Kara’s backdoor exploration 

Friends, occasional lovers and #realworldpornstars LilyandKara, love anal sex. But, they know that pleasurable #realworldanalsex requires the kind of communication and preparation that is rarely given the time of day on-camera. In this long, passionate video watch them show off their vast knowledge of their own bodies and warm up with various toys before they pull each other close and get completely lost in each other’s arms.

10. Brizzleee’s romantic catch-up

Darling 20-something couple, Brizzleee, love nothing more than to spend their free time gazing into each other’s eyes and making love. When this video was made, #realworld obligations had been getting the way of their time together and the happiness and passion they feel as they finally re-connect is more than evident.

11. Richard Coyote’s metime cape-r

Tall, adorable and delightfully queer, Richard Coyote makes his MLNP.tv debut with a #realworldsex video of him making love to himself. Taking time to conjure up memories of lovers in his mind, he shows us that a session flying solo (in a cape no less) can be extremely satisfying.

12. Modesty Ablaze’s bound threesome 

Tied up in ropes and blindfolded, Modesty Ablaze becomes a woman unbound. With the artful bondage crafted by lover no. 14 acting as a constant reminder to let go and surrender to her deepest desires, she submits fully to her two lovers. What starts slowly and teasingly, evolves into an intense full-on threesome that shows a liberated woman at her sexual peak. Ending with Modesty crumpled in a ball on the bed, completely satisfied and spent, her confidence will inspire you to push your own limits.

13. Magic lovers’ sexy train trip to the Italian countryside

Passionate Italian couple, Magic Lovers, are so excited about spending a weekend in a hotel room together that they get started on the train.

14. Kara Price’s dressed-up to get-down playtime

Retired #realworldpornstar, Kara Price, just loves the feeling of something against her skin. In this video, she spends an afternoon with friend Lily Cade playing with different outfits and exploring the different ways they make her feel sexual. Entranced by each persona, she seduces herself over and over again.

15. Violet+Rye’s voyeuristic yoga

Paying homage to the everyday domestic truth that your lover becomes irresistible the moment they start doing naked yoga in the living room, this video starts by showcasing violet’s cute ponytail and considerable flexibility. It isn’t long before Rye puts the camera down and joins in, making his first appearance in a beautiful soft-focus moment of backdoor licking that has Violet gasping with delighted surprise.

16. Cato’s after-work romp

One of Cato‘s favorite ways to wind-down after work and enjoy each other’s company is to order delivery and make love while waiting for dinner to arrive. At first taking their time to kiss and simply enjoy being together, they allow a natural intensity to build before making love on every last inch of their bed.

Craving even more #realworldsex? Well, you’re in luck you saucy lil so-and-so! Click here for #realworldsex videos that get Cindy going and here for all previous editions!

Thinkin’ ’bout sharing some #realworldsex of your own? Check out our handy tips.

Written by Zosia Bielski for The Globe and Mail. Originally published October 31, 2013.

Written by Lula for Le Tag Parfait. Originally published October 31, 2013.

This week’s 6 new #realworldsex videos are all about makinglovenotporn for the fun of it! Whether it’s having a post-breakfast kitchen quickie like Cato, taking the time to give and receive a long, teasing handjob like Bilikesscifi or Annie Ochs and April Showers spending their respective nights getting dressed up and seducing themselves into oblivion – spontaneous, free-spirited and downright indulgent are the words of the day.

Ready, set, go!

MakingForTheFunofItLoveNotPorn:

Chainsaw

Spend a lazy summer afternoon filming their very first #realworldsex video together, ever. Expect lots of natural lubrication, intense orgasms and some giggles, too. The chemistry between this lovely duo will leave you wanting more.

bilikesscifi

The male half of this lovely bi couple gets a real treat, when his fiance decides she would like nothing more than to have him lay back and tease and please him with a long, playful handjob. At first alternating between gazing into each other’s eyes and playfully ribbing one another, they both soon get lost in the moment and stay rapt all the way to a convulsive finish.

lilycade

Annika hadn’t had sex with a woman in quite some time and knew the best way to solve such a conundrum was to call up none other than the insatiable Lily Cade. Excited for their first #realworldsex experience, it’s clear both Lily and Annika have made an effort to look just as cute as can be. The cuteness soon fades, however, as these two pounce on each other and waste no time getting it on in all kinds of ways and positions.

Cato

If we’ve learned anything from Cato’s previous videos, it’s that these two MLNPstars will use any excuse to get it on. This time, they’re in the kitchen about to make breakfast but quickly decide that what they really want to do is make love. Not only will you marvel at their morning energy as they bounce from position to position, but you’ll love the way their bodies interlock to create a soundtrack of pleasure.

Annie Ochs

Annie Ochs is all dressed up with nowhere to be except right there on her bed, riding her toys like she would her favorite lover! Donning a leather pencil skirt, rhinestone bra and suggestive choker, she plays with herself and her new camera in a way that is just mesmerizing to watch. Metime at its best.

April Showers

There must be something in the air, because April Showers has plans for her own metime self-seduction! Dancing for herself in the mirror, she slowly melts her way to the ground and then proceeds to tease and pleasure herself over and over again with the help of her favorite toys.

Do you have #realworldsex just for the fun of it? We wanna see!

Can’t get enough? Check out our MLNPstars making JustBecauseLoveNotPorn.

It was like a light went off. “Holy shit! Other people feel the same way I do about porn!” (Why are the blow job scenes so long? Why are these guys riding around in a bus picking up women? Did she actually cum that way? No…no she couldn’t have… She faked it). 

That’s when it happened, I started liking myself more… I started being a lot more confident in bed and I was determined to make communication a cornerstone of our intimacy and that meant I may have to initiate it myself.

Awesome feedback received from an anonymous male MLNP.tv member:

I know this is probably one message among a thousand, but I felt the need to express myself—even if it isn’t received.  I am a paying member of several pornography sites, and I joined your site with the intent of using it just like all the others.  I watched one video, and I get it.  I wanted to say thank you.  I don’t know if it makes sense, but I sincerely feel like I owe a debt of gratitude to you guys.  What I saw today was absolutely beautiful.  I didn’t intend to be “converted”—if you will—but I have been.

Read more feedback from our members and MLNPstars in our #realworldinbox and Musings section.

Written by Andrew Smiler for  The Good Men Project. Originally published November 14, 2013.

Here at MLNP.tv we’re all about showcasing #realworldsex from every corner of the globe. This week our European MLNPstars take center stage with their particular brand of love not porn.

Ever wondered what takes place behind closed doors in France? Luc & Lucie give us a taste of their sensual French love making. Curious about how Italian passion translates to the bedroom? Magic Lovers show us what hot and heavy really is. And finally, Modesty Ablaze and her husband set fire to the notion that Brits are stoic in bed with their feast-for-the-senses threesomes and Redfox make us wish we too were keeping warm in Northern Ireland with their creative bedroom flourishes and insatiable lust.

Let us see your sense of national pride! Share your own #realworldsex on MLNP.tv and show us how you make love not porn in your city, your country, your continent and your world!

MakingEuropeanLoveNotPorn…

Luc & Lucie

French MLNPstars Luc & Lucie have been together for 10 years with no sign that the je ne sais quoi in their relationship is slowing down. Watch these two amoureux in a brand new video from the beginning of their relationship, featuring beautiful light, hard bodies and a red wine flush in all the right places. Then, discover how their passion has grown by enjoying their first video for MLNP.tv shot during a weekend getaway in Paris!

Redfox

Insatiable and prolific (11 videos so far!) Redfox seem to never run out of sexy lingerie or ideas for what to try next in the bedroom. In fact, they credit the experience of sharing their #realworldsex on MLNP.tv with turning their already spicy love life up to a fever pitch, and have been a major source of joy, pleasure and inspiration for many of our members. Browse through their collection of Halloween treats, kitchen quickies and tied-up teases and you’ll be sure to find more than one video that strikes your fancy.

Magic Lovers

Not for the faint of heart, Magic Lovers’ delirious love making gives new meaning to the expression hot and heavy! Sensual and intense, with an oral fixation and penchant for backdoor exploration, these two will whip you into a frenzy, whether it’s from a hotel room in Rome or during a train trip to the Italian countryside.

havingfun

Of the experience of filming their first #realworldsex video for MLNP.tv, British couple havingfun said it was “one of the most rewarding experiences of [their] lives!” With it’s sexy soundtrack, sensual powerplay and real female orgasms, not doubt you will also find watch this video to be a rewarding endeavour.

MrandMrsLau

British couple MrandMrsLau hold the MLNP.tv record for having the shortest but most explosive #realworldsex video debut! Captured in the captain’s cabin during a boat journey from England to the Netherlands, this slice of a steamy UK lovelife has left our members panting for more. What’s more, they donated the earnings from their video to a charity close to their hearts!

Modesty Ablaze

British mother, lover and everyday citizen, MLNPstar Modesty Ablaze is a testament to the beauty of discovering one’s own sexuality and giving in to one’s desires. Married to her husband for 29 years, they share an explosive love life filled with affection, deep communication, and yes, threesomes, caning and rope play! Giving us an unprecedented look into the journey she’s already captured so well on her blog, I encourage you to take the time to get lost in Modesty Ablaze’s world and experience how her own sexual honesty can benefit you in your own #realworldsexlife.

BloodandNeedles

A hunky Danish piercing artist with a history in porn, MLNPstar BloodandNeedles wanted the opportunity to showcase his sexuality without the fetters of #pornworld conventions. What follows is a sun-drenched moment of male self-pleasure the way it really happens in the #realworld.

Loving the international flavour? Check out our Mexican MLNPstars, Cato. And then, represent your national pride, by sharing your #realworldsex on MLNP.tv.

by bilikesscifi. Originally published on their blog and shared with permission.

This last weekend, we recorded and uploaded our 5th video to www.makelovenotporn.tv.

WHY?

Because we like to show real world sexuality. We’re not porn stars and we don’t see this as porn (although we have no problem with porn). We’re doing exactly what we do in our normal lives – just recording it and occasionally sharing it. It’s documentary of what real sex with real bodies looks like. It’s real & pleasurable. I write about sex, but words never paint a picture like this.

Despite my discomfort and uncertainty in showing my body, I’m at heart an exhibitionist and he is too. We love our bodies and are proud of them. It’s important that real bodies are shown having sex.

We like the money. Let’s be honest – money is a nice incentive to share this kind of intimacy. So far with the payments we’ve received this year, we’ve contributed to good causes, upgraded our own equipment, and paid some bills.

This video

Our newest video isn’t sex. It’s not oral sex. There’s no squirting. There’s no kinky foot job. Instead, I give my partner a hand job. We’ve shared a prior video of him getting a hand job from his point of view. (That was the first video we ever made.)

I’ve bragged that I give some of the world’s best hand jobs*. My partner has told me repeatedly that I play with his penis better than he does. This new video on makelovenotporn has a lot of teasing, some ball spanking, a tiny bit of cock biting, and one really powerful full-body orgasm for him at the end. Of all our videos, it’s also the longest we’ve recorded and shared – thirty-six minutes in total. Thirty-four of those are dedicated to his hand-job.

*This is based entirely on my two partners who have told me some form of this compliment.

Read more great posts by our members and MLNPstars in our #realworldinbox.

Written by Felix Clay for Cracked. Originally published November 23, 2013.

Written by Nathalie Olah for Vice. Originally published November 22, 2013.

Written by Danny Wylde for his blog Trve West Coast Fiction.  Originally published on November 21, 2013. 

Read more

Even more from Danny Wylde on this blog.

Follow him on twitter and watch his #realworldsex on MLNP.tv.

Read more posts by our MLNPstars and #realworldpornstars who share their #realworldsex in our #realworldinbox.

Here in the US, it’s Thanksgiving, and I’m thrilled to have this opportunity to give thanks to all our amazing MakeLoveNotPornstars who share their wonderful #realworldsex with us, and to you our equally amazing members who share with us the pleasure of enjoying it! Following on from my first selection of 16 #realworldsex Videos That Get Cindy Going here are my (very) personal picks from more recent submissions. I hope you enjoy them as much as I did – and do!

VIVE LA FRANCE!

Let’s face it, France, you’ve got a bit of a rep to keep up when it comes to MakeFrenchLoveNotPorn  - and Luc & Lucie are flying the flag big time! I love that Lucie gets to have three French orgasms in their hotel room in Paris (you’re my kind of man, Luc). Plus this video earns our #condomhot tag, demonstrating that not only do condoms not get in the way of great sex, they can be an integral part of great sex.

A SYMPHONY IN BLACK AND WHITE

Quite frankly, I would watch Dale Cooper do ANYTHING naked. Getting to watch him have #realworldsex in beautifully filmed black and white is just a total bonus.  Also, #condomhot.  And I love his choice of MusicToMakeLoveNotPornTo. It is an ongoing source of sadness for us that so far, for some bizarre reason, we are not getting nearly enough gay submissions. Men, c’mon!  You’re what I want!

FUN ON THE FARM

More blatant self-interest here. Men, what can I say? I love watching you – and I love watching you getting yourselves off.  I also love alfresco #realworldsex. So Chainsaw hanging out at his sister’s farm in the country on a glorious summer’s day is my all-round idea of a good time. Including the rooster crowing at the beginning!  Of course, it’s even more of a good time when it’s a two-way street and Chainsaw’s girlfriend gets her share of the action too!

STAND UP COMEDY

#realworldsex is funny. If you can’t laugh at yourselves when you’re having sex, when can you? Chubylovemaking deliver their very own brand of comedy, with a name they coined themselves – oralmor: oral sex + humor.  I laughed till I came.

SLOWING DOWN

Foreplay.  Lots and lots and lots of foreplay.  Playing, teasing, exploring. Taking your time…and then taking some more. ALEX-ANNA demonstrate beautifully why it’s all about the journey not the destination. That’s my kind of sexual philosophy.

REVVING UP

#realworldsex on a motorcycle. Alex & Anna. What’s not to like?

FIRST TIME

Sexuality is fluid. One of the fascinating things about #realworldsex is where different partners can take you in the course of a lifetime, and we love the fact that we hear from many of you telling us MLNP.tv has given you, and your partners, new ideas on things to try out and experiment with.  Zoe has never made love with a woman before – and on her first time out, it’s Lily Cade. How lucky can a girl get? As Kara Price, wielding the camera, correctly predicts, Lily blows Zoe’s mind (amongst other things….) – in the most wonderful way.  I love all the talking, learning and discovery here. Maybe one of these days….

SEX AND GROCERIES

I love spontaneous #realworldsex – the kind that happens suddenly in the midst of the most mundane tasks. Our Mexican MakeLoveNotPornstars Cato do their grocery-shopping on Saturday morning – but there are more important things to attend to first. Also, can we all agree that stretchmarks are sexy as hell? Because I happen to possess quite a few myself – and I love that here on MLNP.tv we get to celebrate #realworldbodies in all their life-lived #realworldglory.

GREENHOUSE GOINGS-ON

I am a sucker (heh) for outdoor sex – doing, and watching.  It might be my English Literature degree that makes me feel April Showers’ greenhouse romp has a distinctly ‘Lady Chatterley’s Lover’ feel to it, but I am all about getting down amongst the seedlings with a hot gardener!

Honestly – I have enormous trouble picking just a few videos – there are so many I love! Lily LaBeau and Fin starting their relationship in Seattle, bilikesscifi demonstrating the art of the handjob in a gloriously long-drawn-out session that should inspire all of us everywhere, Redfox discovering on Halloween that a horny devil costume turns the two of you into horny devils very very quickly, Annie Ochs discovering that even trying on outfits for Halloween can get you in the mood,  Violet & Rye taking yoga to the next level, BunnyFucksBearfinding the perfect way to deal with bad days and work stress.

Aaarrggghhh!  Choice trauma!  I’ll just have to put together another special edition come Christmas! By which time I’m hoping a lot more of you will have submitted your own #realworldsex videos, thereby making my task even more difficult…

Find even more picks from the MLNP.tv team by browsing our editions!

Written by Ben Schiller for Fast Company. Originally published December 2, 2013.

Written by Rachel Zar for Refinery 29. Originally published November 26, 2013.

Baby, it may be cold outside, but we’ve got the perfect thing to keep you toasty and warm. Our MLNPstars are also starting to feel that winter chill and that means more #realworldsex – hot and heavy with enough spark to keep that fire burning all season long!

Join Chainsaw for a slow passionate round of #realworldmorningsex and watch your windows fog up…Strip down to just your skin with brand new MLNPstars AllenandtheJean and feel the warm waves of multiple orgasms wash over you…Put on that blindfold and break out the feather duster like two_sybarite, and get flushed with the slightest touch…

Heating up?

MakingHotandHeavyLoveNotPorn this week:

Chainsaw

Waking up in bed skin to skin, this adorable MLNPstar couple can’t help but stroke, caress and tease each other until before long they’re making full-on, passionate love to one another. Complete with slightly droopy but totally kissable morning eyelids and an attraction that will sear through your screen, you’ll be just as thrilled as I am that these two were able to pull out their iPhone just in time to capture a wonderfully intimate moment.

AllenandtheJean

There’s no disputing that AllenandtheJean know their way around each other’s bodies. As they play with their lover’s hot spots like a maestro would an instrument, you’re sure to thoroughly enjoy watching these brand new MLNPstars taking the time to give and receive pleasure over and over again.

lilycade

Having only recently met Kierstin at a party, Lily Cade is thrilled to hear her new friend is interested in continuing their off-screen tryst with a #realworldsex video for MLNP.tv! It’s one of the first times Kierstin’s gotten down with someone who wasn’t a close friend and the blazing chemistry between her and Lily catches both of them off guard. Expect lots of communication, orgasms and heat!

two_sybarite

One of my favorite things about MLNPstars, two_sybarite, is that while to the naked eye they may appear to be an everyday, 40- something married couple, behind closed doors they are supreme sensualists with a fiery #realworldsex life and the gadgets to prove it! In this video, they show us how kink doesn’t always need to involve whips and floggers and instead use a feather duster, a blindfold and some teasing light touch to work the Mrs. into a frenzy.

Honey & Sweetie

Brand new MLNPstars Honey & Sweetie’s first video on MLNP.tv features a steamy, post-shower round of #realworldsex complete with giggles and the exchanging of long, loving looks. Showcasing how #realworldsex can be a great way to re-connect and have some fun with your partner, this video will leave you feeling warm, fuzzy and ready to play with your someone special.

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Interested in sharing some hot and heaviness of your own? Have a gander at these helpful tips!

The fact we describe MakeLoveNotPorn as not porn, not ‘amateur’, but #realworldsex has some people puzzled.  Surely, if MLNP.tv shows naked people having sex, we must be porn?

One of the issues here is the way our society uses the word ‘porn’ – often to describe anything involving naked people and/or sex. I get equally frustrated by the tendency for the term ‘porn’ to be used as if porn was all one big homogeneous mass. That’s like using the term ‘literature’ as if all literature were the same.  The landscape of porn is as varied and full of genres, sub-genres and numerous different forms as the landscape of literature.  Just as a lot of things classified as ‘porn’, strictly speaking, aren’t.  (What Tumblr considers ‘porn’, for example, is often any nudity whatsoever, and any form of individual sexual self-expression in an everyday context.)

Language matters – which is why one of the things we’re doing is creating a new vocabulary for #realworldsex. And why we draw a distinction between porn in the generally-used sense (professionally-produced – this applies to a lot of so-called ‘amateur’ as well – performative, specifically-created entertainment) and #realworldsex.

We explain what we mean by #realworldsex here and what we curate for here.

We also acknowledge that while we want to showcase non-performative, #realworldsex, the presence of a camera or camera phone inevitably begs the question of how real and natural anything can be – which is why we ask you the question, ‘How does your behavior change when a camera is observing you?’ We don’t know the answer, but we are very interested in our members’ responses.

One of our members, a man who’s watched a lot of porn and is a big fan of MLNP.tv, told us,

‘When I watch your videos, I feel I’ve never seen people have sex before.’

Another man told us,

‘Watching porn makes me want to jerk off. Watching your videos makes me want to have sex.’

Which we loved because we’re about connecting people. We’re building MakeLoveNotPorn to act as sexual social currency: to help make it easier to talk about sex in the real world, to help get to better sex, to help get to better relationships, to help get to better lives.

Members occasionally email asking us to cancel their account (because we’re tiny and bootstrapping, we haven’t yet been able to build a ‘self-delete’ capability). We always take the opportunity to ask why. This is what one person told us:

‘I think your site is great and it is a great idea too… I don’t really know if I find the right words to tell you why MLNP.tv isn’t for me, but it has to do with feeling weird watching real people having sex. It feels much more voyeuristic than watching porn with actors. Here, I saw real emotions, real people and I knew that and for me it felt wrong to watch them in such an intimate manner (even if they share their videos willingly) I felt like an intruder in their privacy. As the name of your site implies, they made love, not porn and well… I couldn’t find my own satisfaction like this.’

Another person who also asked to cancel their account said:

“I guess I felt like a voyeur on your site, watching real people’s private affairs. It wasn’t a faked performance.”

(By the way, members’ reasons for cancelling have generally been uniformly positive.  Just today, the reason given for a cancellation request was, ‘It was (is) fun, but I just found it was taking too much of my time.’ But we like that! )

Here are two other members (a male/female couple):

‘We’ve been interested in your site since its inception. The videos are so beautiful, simply because they are so natural and allow others to witness one the most beautiful things in the universe in which two people can share. We know most people do it. But, when you think about it, it’s actually an honor when others (non-pro) allow you to witness them and, in a way, become part of their experience. The “rental” fees are not really just charges to watch as much as they are tokens of appreciation for allowing others share in their most private and intimate times together. So, your site is very unique and we hope it continues and flourishes.’

And this is a man:

‘I know this is probably one message among a thousand, but I felt the need to express myself—even if it isn’t received.  I am a paying member of several pornography sites, and I joined your site with the intent of using it just like all the others.  I watched one video, and I get it.  I wanted to say thank you.  I don’t know if it makes sense, but I sincerely feel like I owe a debt of gratitude to you guys.  What I saw today was absolutely beautiful.  I didn’t intend to be “converted”—if you will—but I have been.’

We’re an experiment – one that is just 11 months old in public beta (but with, at the time of writing, over 205,000 members, which we are thrilled about). We are learning ourselves, all the time, about what is #realworldsex versus porn.  Which is why this is an ongoing discussion, and why we’d love to hear what you think.

Written by Rashida Jones for Glamour Magazine.  Originally published December 2013.

“This fall I was hanging out with my sisters, catching up on pop-culture stuff. We watched some music videos, looked at a few Instagram accounts, and checked out blogs. And amid the usual duck-lipped selfies and staged paparazzi photos, a theme emerged: Stripper poles, G-strings, boobs, and a lot of tongue action were all now normal accessories for mainstream pop stars. Across the board the Instamessage seemed to be: “You know you want to have sex with me. Here, take a look at lots of parts of my body.”

That was at the end of October, a month that had already brought us the Miley Cyrus cross-continental twerk-a-thon and Nicki Minaj’s Halloween pasties. With the addition of Rihanna writhing on a pole in her “Pour It Up” video, and Lady Gaga’s butt-crack cover art for the song that goes “Do what you want with my body,” I was just done. I’d had enough.

I don’t know when the pornification of pop stars became so extreme, but as Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines” video played in the background—naked fantasy women bouncing around and licking things—I realized that the lines were not really blurry at all. They were clear. A new era had arrived.”

Read more here.

Written by Carmen Gray for Dazed Digital. Originally published December 9, 2013.